...Texting perfectly, not replying âtoo fast,â hiding your hopesâand still getting ghosted, breadcrumbed, or shut out.
Youâre doing everything you can to create connection, but it always feels just out of reach.
đ Saying yes when you mean noâjust to keep the peace
đ Doing therapy and all the âinner work,â but still feeling anxious, reactive, or shut down
đ Expressing your needs the âhealthyâ wayâonly to be met with silence, anger or distance
đ Trying to show up perfectly, but constantly feeling like youâre the problem
đ Trying to not find flaws but can't help but notice his unpolished shoes...
Itâs exhausting. Frustrating...and deeply lonely.
But hereâs what no one tells you:
Itâs not that you havenât tried hard enough ( you have- and probably too hard)
Itâs that your attachment style is still in charge.
These patternsâclinging, avoiding, shutting down, over-givingâarenât flaws.
Theyâre survival strategies your nervous system learned to feel safe in love.
But what once protected you is now keeping you stuck.
And now? Itâs time to unlearn them.
When you heal your attachment style, connection stops feeling like a performance.
You stop trying to earn loveâand start feeling safe to actually receive it.
Thatâs when everything begins to change and...
love stops feeling like an uphill battle.
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