...Texting perfectly, not replying ātoo fast,ā hiding your hopesāand still getting ghosted, breadcrumbed, or shut out.
Youāre doing everything you can to create connection, but it always feels just out of reach.
š Saying yes when you mean noājust to keep the peace
š Doing therapy and all the āinner work,ā but still feeling anxious, reactive, or shut down
š Expressing your needs the āhealthyā wayāonly to be met with silence, anger or distance
š Trying to show up perfectly, but constantly feeling like youāre the problem
š Trying to not find flawsĀ but can't help but notice his unpolished shoes...
Itās exhausting. Frustrating...and deeply lonely.
But hereās what no one tells you:
Itās not that you havenāt tried hard enough ( you have- and probably too hard)
Itās that your attachment style is still in charge.
These patternsāclinging, avoiding, shutting down, over-givingāarenāt flaws.
Theyāre survival strategies your nervous system learned to feel safe in love.
But what once protected you is now keeping you stuck.
And now? Itās time to unlearn them.
When you heal your attachment style, connection stops feeling like a performance.
You stop trying to earn loveāand start feeling safe to actually receive it.
Thatās when everything begins to change and...
love stops feeling like an uphill battle.
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